mutuality.

So, i was blog surfing and coincidently read these 2 blog posts that somewhat sends the same messages. Blogger's identity not included..hehe..

Mana la tau got some feminists want to antam them...ohohoho..

These bloggers do have some good point actually. AND should be read by us girls. As for early warning, memang will feel a bit geram( i still dunno how to explain GERAM in english) also la with the guys. Thats why I think we should read on..u know what i mean? Because i strongly thinks it can be applied to both genders...Female and male..

• Gentlemen A post.

There will come a time in a man's life when we need to be serious in a relationship. But that does not mean you need to submit to the ways of a dominants and controlling woman, and have your tail caught between your legs.

If going for a beer, or some trivial excursion requires her permission, You're on a short leash. Your bossy girlfriends thinks that this is a NO-NO. Suddenly, you just cant pop into a club for quick booze at the end of the day without facing loads of rubbish questions and harassment. That makes you stop doing it. Don't give in to her and let her control you.

Sharing e-mail account and passwords is insane! I used to inadvertently share my password with my ex- girlfriend that was a major mistakes because you suffer a lot of independence. I changed my password, she asked, and I asked her to fuck off and give me my privacy. I subsequently dumped her.

It's a definite sign that you're on a leash when you get some piece of news(good or bad) and your thoughts immediately turns to how she will responds once she hears it. Thoughts start running through your head and you brace yourself for her dramatic accusation and moaning. Get her a dog for Christmas and let her channel her drama towards it.

You used to get calls and texts from friends wondering about your plans. Now, its no longer the case, everyones stop contacting you, assuming that you're keep under lock and key all weekend, and they finally givin up on you. Bullshit to that. Just keep this going. They're your friends and if your woman thinks that your intention is to bang all female friends you come in contact with, dump your girlfriend. She got issues.

My saying:

You don't have to ask her permission to live your life. TELL her but don't ask her permission. Always defend your rights and dignity from the start. Talk things over, make some deals and the most importantly, give and take. If she continue, break up with her or your life will be ruined.

• Gentlemen B post.

If your whole life revolves around your significant other, you have to rethink your priorities. If a guy/girl comes into your life and turns it around, what does that say about your life? Does that mean it was empty and meaningless before she came into your life? If your answer is yes, there might be something wrong with you.

I had a friend who asked his girlfriends to run away from home. He said he'll take care of her and pay for her college tuition fees. All this when he's only 21 years old. Man, he couldn't even keep a steady job for a month! Fortunately, the girl wasn't stupid enough to believe him and she broke up with him a month later.

Or another one where he used to say ''I will love you forever'' and go totally broke buying stuffs for his girlfriends. All with his parents money!

Or the one who said ''My life is meaningless'' after his girlfriends left him. The he found another one and said the same thing. Get a fucking clue.

Anyways, my point is, if you can't take care of yourself, how can you take care of somebody else?

A girl ain't gonna fix your problems and sure she ain't gonna rely on you for security if you;re not independent( emotionally or financially). Somewhere along the line, a whole generations of guys have lost their balls and turned into so called " sensitive new age guys". I have the right to call them that because I used to be one.

Its true. I used to be needy, jealous, self- sympathizing, emotional black-hole of a person. Some of my ex- girlfriend can relate to that, and boy did I gave them shit. I'm so sorry about that and you girls would be so proud that I grew out of that teenage angst. I'm definitely in a happier place right now.

In fact, I am more selfish these days. Apparently, girls like a little backbone in their man!

What I learned over the years is that, you have to fix your own problems first, thinks about your future and focus on what make you happy. The center of your life is you, not your religion, not your jobs, not your computer games, not your possessions and certainly not your significant other. Hard to accept, but it's true. None of these things will fix you if you don't want to fix yourself.

Which bring me to the lesson no 2 of the manifesto.

2. The center of universe is yourself.

*** THE END***

HMMMM..INDEED!

All ladies out there should do the SAME..

that's what I think..

NOBODY owns NOBODY..

..sPREAD YOUR WINGS AND FLY..

..specially dedicated to all the ladies and friends who are going through that caged feelings.

You have a choice.